Newly Engaged. Make The Choice That Feels Right For You!

Angel Orensanz, NYC

As women we are raised to be caretakers; to always put other people’s needs ahead of our own.    Your wedding day is the one and only day that was designed to be about and for you.  So let go of your need to do what is right for everyone else and choose to do what feels right for you.

Last week I had the opportunity to help one of my brides make a choice that felt right for her.  She had spent the last few months feverishly searching for the perfect wedding venue. She ended up very conflicted and unable to make a decision between 2 completely different spaces.  One space was completely done and felt elegant and glamorous and appeared to come with everything she could ever dream of and the other was more raw and urban- a space that she would get to play in and create the wedding she always dreamed about.  To everyone, the choice was obvious, go with the glamour, what is not to love? She was really torn and afraid that everyone would be mad at her if she picked the space she really wanted. After months of trying to make a decision her fiancée said, “I don’t care which place we get married in, I only care that we get married and that you are happy”  She turned to him and said “but, you do care”- he looked her in the eye and said: “no, I really don’t.  I just want you to make a decision and I will be ok with whatever you choose.”  It was so hard for her to trust that he really meant what he said.   

As I approach my 25^th year of marriage I was able to help her see that her fiancée meant what he said.  His only desire was her happiness and for him getting married was what he wanted and once he asked her to be his wife his decision was done.  

The next day we went back to both venues. And as soon as she stepped onto the street of the venue she loved she turned to me and said, this is it. I want to have my wedding here.  It was that simple.  If you can let go of what you think is the right decision for everyone else and go with your instinct and gut feeling you will certainly be one step closer to your dream.

Dear Reader,  Are you having trouble finding the venue that is right because everyone sees something different for you than you see for yourself?  I am curious as to how you would handle this situation.  Let me know.  I would love to hear from you.

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Grace, Gratitude and Happy Planning!