Do you feel overwhelmed and stressed because your parents don’t
seem to care about what you want?
Are you not sleeping at night because you wanted a small wedding and now
his Mom just gave you a list for 200 people and she isn’t even paying? Are you surrounded by people who seem
to be whining about your wedding instead of supporting and helping you?
It just isn’t fair!
It’s your wedding and everyone thinks they have a say in it.
It is time to take back your wedding, your dreams and your
sanity.
Begin writing in a journal. Make it part of your morning routine. Keep it next to your
bed and every morning before you get out of bed start your day by writing 3
pages. Write whatever comes to
your mind and do not filter your thoughts or feelings. This is for you and you alone, so do
not let anyone else read it. Use
this journal to explore your wedding dreams and fantasies, use it to write
about who you are mad at, disappointed in. Express yourself, journal about your fears. Use these pages
to get out all your anger, confusion and frustration. You will want to finish
these pages with a gratitude list; even if you are not feeling grateful write
the list anyway. Keep this journal going till your wedding day. And remember always,
have 1 page or 1 paragraph to focus on what you love and what you are grateful
for.
Get clear on the wedding you want and the number of people
you want to have. Your morning
journaling will help you find the clarity. Write down your wedding dreams- your likes, dislikes, your vision. Again Do Not Edit yourself. This is your place to become clear.
Write about your money fears and concerns, your fiancee, your parents, his
parents, your grand ma. Create a vision board of pictures that
express who you are and what you want your wedding to be like. If you are clear in your vision, dreams
and wish list it will become easier for you to filter and deflect all the
chatter.
Schedule a sit down with your particular “crazy maker” and
have a calm discussion about your wedding. Do it someplace local, like your favorite café or
restaurant. Do not have this
conversation at home, it will be too easy to have tempers fly and doors
slam. Thank this person for all
their help, input and amazing ideas.
Let them know that you have heard their request and would love to honor
it but here is where you are stuck.
If it is monetary ask them, calmly if they can contribute. If it is about inviting 100 people you
never met find out why this list is so important and who is a “must have
invitee and why”. Then be prepared
to compromise. Your wedding is one
day in your life and chances are your “crazy maker” is someone you have an
ongoing relationship with. Make it
clear to this person that you would be more than happy to include them in your
wedding, however, they need to schedule time with you to have these
conversations.
Choose the path that will make you the happiest and bring
you the most amount of joy. It is
so easy to be right, but that does not always bring us happiness and joy. Choose happy, it is infectious and will
give you a healthier life.
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